Ratickle
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So no one should miss boating for your wedding?:sifone:
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So no one should miss boating for your wedding?:sifone:
Ratickle
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Mine is in October. Out of the main boating season. Besides I would probably understand if they went boating instead! Just send the present
Now that's a really good answer!!!
And if they don't show, the present should be bigger and more expensive to help alleviate some of your disappointment. Right?:sifone:
ChiefApache
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If they're really you're friends, they won't miss your wedding. That's all I'm gonna say.
Yes, we boat and we boat hard, but as a boater (and some will disagree) you have to make certain functions and people a priority.
Yes, we boat and we boat hard, but as a boater (and some will disagree) you have to make certain functions and people a priority.
fund razor
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JJ Apache
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Mine is in October. Out of the main boating season. Besides I would probably understand if they went boating instead! Just send the present
Great attitude! I like it......:sifone:
ChiefApache
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Did you miss it because you were boating?
Most people don't get married with a couple days notice. We're talking under normal circumstances.
My daughter got married last summer. I invited 7 couples. 6 made it. The one that didn't do so because "it was a boating day." Sorry, you just informed me how unimportant I am as your friend and you will not be invited to another family function in the future. I personally feel it's about priorities. Choose wisely and carefully. Boating season is only 4.5 months out of 12.
JJ Apache
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My best friends got engaged on thanksgiving 96. Wedding 11-01-97.Asked me to be a bridesmaid. My brother met a girl around 11/96. They picked 11-01-97 as their wedding date too...... was in my friends, did the reception/pictures, then I had to go 2 Co. away to get in the family photos.... Neither marraige made it.
What are the odds.....I have 3 brothers, and 2 sisters. 2 brothers married Wendys'. Both sisters married Jeffreys'......:ack2::ack2: and I have a John....(I have a bro Jon...):dupe:
What are the odds.....I have 3 brothers, and 2 sisters. 2 brothers married Wendys'. Both sisters married Jeffreys'......:ack2::ack2: and I have a John....(I have a bro Jon...):dupe:
MarylandMark
Charter Member
Wow jj!
DonziGirl
Founding Member
I'm just trying to keep myself on an even keel attitude. My one aunt told me she might not be able to make it because she'd be in Yellowstone until a few days after the wedding. They spend months there and couldn't leave 5 days early? She's coming now, but I'll remember it.
My cousin was supposed to do petitions for me but his dad had a stroke and he's in Cincy every few weekends now. At first he told me he'd do everything he could to make it to my wedding. He just called to tell me to find someone else to do the petitions but he'd still try to make the wedding. His excuse was he might not have enough vacation days left. He works M - F at a 9 to 5 job. He lives in TN about 5 hours away. Leave Friday night after work or Saturday morning... I was in his wedding as a kid and I really wanted to involve my dad's family somehow in the wedding. We don't do much with that side of the family so whenever there's an event, it's usually mandatory.
I guess I'm just disappointed and a little hurt over those two.
My cousin was supposed to do petitions for me but his dad had a stroke and he's in Cincy every few weekends now. At first he told me he'd do everything he could to make it to my wedding. He just called to tell me to find someone else to do the petitions but he'd still try to make the wedding. His excuse was he might not have enough vacation days left. He works M - F at a 9 to 5 job. He lives in TN about 5 hours away. Leave Friday night after work or Saturday morning... I was in his wedding as a kid and I really wanted to involve my dad's family somehow in the wedding. We don't do much with that side of the family so whenever there's an event, it's usually mandatory.
I guess I'm just disappointed and a little hurt over those two.
ChiefApache
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And it is disappointmenting and hurtful. It's an important day for you and Tony, and your families. I know how we felt for Megan's wedding. I was hurt by the one who chose not to come because it was August and a boating day (we got the last laugh, it stormed like hell--called Karma baby :biggrinjester
.I understand just as you how we only have these so many days and weekends to boat in because we live in hell with the winters we have. But.....there are things we should do becuase 1) it's the right thing to do and 2) it's important to the person who the celebration is for.
Rob and I learned a lot from the wedding last year. We make it a priority to attend things we would have blown off in the past. It depends on the friendship and how close we are to that person.
MarylandMark
Charter Member
Keep your head up DG!! Sorry you have to deal with all that BS.
Wedding bring out some crazy crap from people!
My future in-laws threw a fit because we are doing a destination wedding 400 miles south of MD in SC. We wanted SC so that is where we are going. They were going to pay for it in MD ($60K+) but won't pay less than 1/2 that in SC. I don't mean to sound like an ungrateful brat- they offered to pay and we accepted until we realized there were strings attached (their way or the highway;we took the highway). They complained their family won't be able to attend (many are very well off but whatever), they say we are selfish that we are asking people to spend $$ to come to our day in this economy and so on.
Anyway- we have a rockin engagement party less than 40 minute drive from almost all of them and exactly 2 people show up..
This is out of 72 people in their family!!!!! 72 of them and 2 show up!!! Father-in-law is 1 of 7 siblings and Mother-in-law 1 of 8 siblings.
What burns my shorts even more? We offer to pay for them all to come down- not just for the wedding and reception but place for ALL of them to stay the entire week!! They all know this prior to us even announcing we are getting married in SC (well we told them we were paying for places for them to stay the same time we told them where/when we were getting married).
My buddy donated his ocean house that sleeps 14, then the neighbor next door is giving us his for pretty cheap, got another house down the street that sleeps 10 and a few hotel rooms. They knew all of this and couldn't even come to our engagement party- I say F'em but we are taking the high road and still extending our offer. Hotels, cabs all over changed to us (give driver a passcode), whatever the reception is going to cost, etc. GGRRRR
Here is my buddys house on the ocean- anyone going to the area I can get them a deal on it (little plug for him giving it to us for free)
edit= we knew as soon as we said we were going to SC we would have to pay for it and planned on paying for everyone. Just wanted to clarify- we never asked for her parents to pay for everyone; we knew going to SC meant we were on our own and thought out all the details before choosing to go to SC.
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ChiefApache
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Rob and I got married in Clearwater (Treasure Island) and invited no one!!! It was awesome! It was the second time for both of us.
In the end, it will out work out and things will be fine. It's frustrating when planning a wedding.
In the end, it will out work out and things will be fine. It's frustrating when planning a wedding.
MarylandMark
Charter Member
Thanks!
I did some editing to make my above post read better...
MY idea was destination- like an island or whatever- and then have a reception when we get back.
Her parents say we are more about the party than the ceremony where they are more about the ceremony than the party. They are right!!!! I'd hit the court house and then have a throw down vs a big wedding and then say thanks for coming.
I did some editing to make my above post read better...
MY idea was destination- like an island or whatever- and then have a reception when we get back.
Her parents say we are more about the party than the ceremony where they are more about the ceremony than the party. They are right!!!! I'd hit the court house and then have a throw down vs a big wedding and then say thanks for coming.
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