A real tragedy

[cuda]

A long time friend and helper called me tonight and told me one of his best friends blew his brains out tonight. He was very upset, and wanted to come to my house (he lives in St Pete), but we got disconnected. I hope that just his phone went dead. I'll drive there and get him tomorrow if he wants.

He was so ****ed at his buddy. I told him that's the most puzzy way out in the world, and he didn't have to worry about me doing that, because you just leave behind the one's that cared for you the most. I'm hoping to hear back from him. I called my mom over there, because she and my dad have adopted him when I did. I hope it all turns out as well as can be expected. I reminded him he has a daughter to worry about too. He wanted to come here tonight, because he says I'm the only true friend he has. I told him as long as I have a house, he has a place to stay.

 

[JupiterSunsation]

suicide is tough on the survivors....hope your buddy shows up on your doorstep tonight.

 

[jayboat]

Sorry to hear this. It always pains me to think of the personal demons a person must be dealing with to feel that this is the only way out.

Hope your friend is ok.

 

[Wobble]

I have known two men that did that, one was twenty two and the other 34, I doubt they had any idea the misery they caused their family and friends. 30 years later and still it is causing problems

 

[BUIZILLA]

my best friend, and best man in my wedding did it.... totally unexpected, and off the wall.... over a woman who left him for no reason....

 

[cuda]

my best friend, and best man in my wedding did it.... totally unexpected, and off the wall.... over a woman who left him for no reason....

I never heard back from him last night. I'm debating right now whether to call him. I'll drive to St Pete to pick him up.

 

[Wrinkleface]

2 of my dental school classmates have done that!!

 

[drpete3]

Wow guys. What a sad thing. Its saddest on the survivors with the range of emotions from guilt to anger. Stay close to your friends esp in the hard times.

 

[cuda]

my best friend, and best man in my wedding did it.... totally unexpected, and off the wall.... over a woman who left him for no reason....

I'd never let a woman drive me to that.

 

[gerritm]

My brother committed suicide. It tough on everyone. Go help him out.

 

[cuda]

I can't get in touch with him on the phone, and I don't know where he is staying, or I would be headed there right now.

Chuck has made some bad decisions in his life, but his heart has always been in the right place. He's the kind of guy that would give you the shirt off his back where he knows you or not.

I've always counted on him to be my conciounse.

 

[DollaBill]

I have to chime in here.

When you are in that state of mind the LAST thing you can think about is everyone else. It's obviously gotten to the point of loss of control. Things are SERIOUSLY wrong mentally and you can't be held accountable for your actions. If youare/were coherent enough to understand how it affects everyone around you you wouldnt be sitting on a bed with a gun in your mouth.

I have to respectfully disagree with everyone who says it's such a selfish puzzy thing to do. It's much more complicated than that and I feel bad for people who lost others that way and harbor bad feeling toward them and didn't attend funerals etc. That person who did that was in a place that, obviously, you can't even imagine.

 

[cuda]

I have to chime in here.

When you are in that state of mind the LAST thing you can think about is everyone else. It's obviously gotten to the point of loss of control. Things are SERIOUSLY wrong mentally and you can't be held accountable for your actions. If youare/were coherent enough to understand how it affects everyone around you you wouldnt be sitting on a bed with a gun in your mouth.

I have to respectfully disagree with everyone who says it's such a selfish puzzy thing to do. It's much more complicated than that and I feel bad for people who lost others that way and harbor bad feeling toward them and didn't attend funerals etc. That person who did that was in a place that, obviously, you can't even imagine.

When you think back on it, yes it is the most selfish puzzy thing that you can do.
I was chewing on a gun barrel once, and ended up put in the nut house by cops.

 

[DollaBill]

"When you think back on it" exactly. But at that time you aren't thinking back on it. You are in the middle of a mental Cat 5 hurricane. I'll never feel anything but compassion for people in that place. Whether they make it or not.

 

[cuda]

"When you think back on it" exactly. But at that time you aren't thinking back on it. You are in the middle of a mental Cat 5 hurricane. I'll never feel anything but compassion for people in that place. Whether they make it or not.

I was lucky enough to be able to think back on it. I was drunk, heartbroken, and armed. That's a deadlly combination. My mom had to fly back from Oregon. Never again.

 

[Tom A.]

Be strong Cuda. You and your personal experience are the best thing for your friend to help him through.

 

[cuda]

Be strong Cuda. You and your personal experience are the best thing for your friend to help him through.

He still hasn't answered his phone. I don't know where he is living.

 

[PARADOX]

Sorry to hear Cuda. If your friend needs anyting let me know. I'm about 45 minutes away from St Pete. (And I have a small room he can stay if needed)
As far as calling it quits..? ! it's just that.
No matter what state of mind some one is.. pulling a trigger or something to END it all is easy.
Living is hard. Going on.. when life kickes you in the head that your head is dangling from your neck is hard.
And I can tell you.. life can kick pretty fraking HARD.
My respect to the onces that go on, facing what ever life dishes out.
My best to his friends and family.

 

[cuda]

Sorry to hear Cuda. If your friend needs anyting let me know. I'm about 45 minutes away from St Pete. (And I have a small room he can stay if needed)
As far as calling it quits..? ! it's just that.
No matter what state of mind some one is.. pulling a trigger or something to END it all is easy.
Living is hard. Going on.. when life kickes you in the head that your head is dangling from your neck is hard.
And I can tell you.. life can kick pretty fraking HARD.
My respect to the onces that go on, facing what ever life dishes out.
My best to his friends and family.

I still haven't heard from him. He's is probably the toughest sob I've ever met. I can talk to him in a way nobody else could without toting an ass whupping. I don't know what he's up to.

You are right, it is tougher to keep going when everything seems to go wrong. Quitting would be the easiest thing to do.

 

[Wobble]

I still haven't heard from him. He's is probably the toughest sob I've ever met. I can talk to him in a way nobody else could without toting an ass whupping. I don't know what he's up to.

You are right, it is tougher to keep going when everything seems to go wrong. Quitting would be the easiest thing to do.

Does this guy have any family that you can get contact info from?