Pictures at a funeral...

[MarylandMark]

I buried a buddy last week- 37 years old. Was out watching Sunday Night football, took a chick he met at a bar that night home and she woke up to him being a goner. What a way to go I guess!

So anyway- someone was there taking pics. I felt that was tacky, creepy, morbid and weird but got me pondering so figured I'd run it through the SOS think tank.

Most take pics of life events- birthdays, weddings (what a rip off by the way!), etc so losing someone close shouldn't be any different; but it is.

Hungover and just thinking out loud. I read online it was taboo and maybe even illegal for Catholics?

I prefer to remember someone how they were in life; not death.

Thoughts?

 

[MikeyFIN]

We photograph burials overhere, thisway we have something to remember from that too.
Usually theres a professional photographer doing that.

 

[Buoy]

What were they taking pictures of? The man's body?:cuss:

There are some places that cameras just do not belong.
A funeral is one of them.

Sorry about the loss of your friend.
May he Rest in Peace.

 

[Tom A.]

At my Italian Grandmother's funeral, my Aunt got all the grandchildren together for a group picture since it was one of the few times we were all together. I didn't like the idea at the time, all though most of my cousins did at the time. Now every time I see that picture, it creeps me out and does not remind me of the good times.

Sorry about your friend.

 

[MarylandMark]

I'm not sure who the woman was- maybe an Aunt or some thing. She appeared to be family.

Took pics of his urn (cremated) and the people there. Not as creepy as an open casket but still.

 

[Scarab KV]

At my Italian Grandmother's funeral, my Aunt got all the grandchildren together for a group picture since it was one of the few times we were all together. I didn't like the idea at the time, all though most of my cousins did at the time. Now every time I see that picture, it creeps me out and does not remind me of the good times.

Sorry about your friend.

A pic at the dinner after would be ok. At that point you're celebrating their life.
A group shot around the casket would be F'n morbid:cuss:

 

[MikeyFIN]

The pictures of people leaving the farewell banquets & flowers on the casket, reading the last goodbyes and sofort ?
We dont have open caskets as in our opinion thats grose.

And yes MM our condolences.

 

[Scarab KV]

I buried a buddy last week- 37 years old. Was out watching Sunday Night football, took a chick he met at a bar that night home and she woke up to him being a goner. What a way to go I guess!

So anyway- someone was there taking pics. I felt that was tacky, creepy, morbid and weird but got me pondering so figured I'd run it through the SOS think tank.

Most take pics of life events- birthdays, weddings (what a rip off by the way!), etc so losing someone close shouldn't be any different; but it is.

Hungover and just thinking out loud. I read online it was taboo and maybe even illegal for Catholics?

I prefer to remember someone how they were in life; not death.

Thoughts?

Sorry for your loss MM

 

[MikeyFIN]

a group shot around the casket would be f'n morbid:cuss:

+1

 

[phragle]

it really kind of depends..., for one thing, you have the most family together in one spot for weddings and funerals. The other thing is that to different people/cultures funerals are different things. To some they are incredibly sad somber events. To others (the way I want mine eventually) it's a party, a celebration of the deceased's life. When i go, I don't want people crying and saying they are going to miss me, I want people eating, drinking, telling stories "man you remember that one time he...that was insane" It's my going away party, party it up, laugh, remember, get trashed, take pictures and celebrate the jackass I was... When I die I want a weekend at Bernie's not a 21 gun salute. But hey..Im still alive, who wants to make some stories?

 

[Scarab KV]

it really kind of depends..., for one thing, you have the most family together in one spot for weddings and funerals. The other thing is that to different people/cultures funerals are different things. To some they are incredibly sad somber events. To others (the way I want mine eventually) it's a party, a celebration of the deceased's life. When i go, I don't want people crying and saying they are going to miss me, I want people eating, drinking, telling stories "man you remember that one time he...that was insane" It's my going away party, party it up, laugh, remember, get trashed, take pictures and celebrate the jackass I was... When I die I want a weekend at Bernie's not a 21 gun salute. But hey..Im still alive, who wants to make some stories?

Can a funeral stretch out to a week long.:rofl:

 

[MarylandMark]

I agree Phragle- mine is going to be a FUN-eral. I just hope it is many moons from now, many many moons...

 

[Scarab KV]

But hey..Im still alive, who wants to make some stories?

Game on:sifone:

 

[JupiterSunsation]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GB7R14xBI6g Irreverence at a funeral for sure!

I knew a guy that died last year and a couple of my buddies went to the funeral. They were telling me the details and I was stunned. Guy was into jap bikes and they had two of his bikes at both ends of the casket, he was wearing Oakley blades in the open casket and a rap song was replaying on a boombox........I thought they were BS'ing me but they both told the exact same story.

 

[Buoy]

Here are my thoughts (if anybody cares...)

I think of the funeral itself as a ceremony. Yes, somewhat a somber and sullen event.
But, I haven't been to very many funerals.
I remember being a pallbearer at my Grandfathers funeral. After the casket was loaded into the hearse, the procession drove to the grave site. At he cemetery, I was in the car waiting to park, and I had my Aunt and Uncle walking by (other side of the family), and they stopped to comment on the new car I was driving. I thought this was not the time or place to be talking about my car and sort of brushed them off.

That being said, when the ceremony is over, the wake was held at the American Legion across the street from his home. A slide show of parts of his life was shown, and made for nice memories of happy times with him.
At this time, I agree it is time to celebrate the life that you had the opportunity to share with a person.

 

[MarylandMark]

the wake was held at the American Legion across the street from his home.

Pat Reiter's (http://reiterracing553.com/) wake was at an American Legion last year. Imagine how the party went when my bar tab was $1100 at an American Legion! I think the beers were like $1

:cheers2:

 

[Scarab KV]

Aside from a full Color Guard from surrounding fire departments and fire trucks draped in Purple, my dad's funeral was all but somber. Even when they put him in the wrong hole. Brothers and I along with mom, went back to the cemetery later when they notified us of the goof, to indeed verify it was his crypt they were raising and moving to the right hole. We just thought of it as his way of say'n, "You're not get'n rid of me that easy"
Ya had to know the man.

On the other hand, the other family tried suing the pants off the cemetery.

 

[cuda]

This is a morbid subject. Seek professional help.

 

[MacGyver]

Sad that sometimes you only see extended family at weddings and funerals. I can see taking some photos of family, but not any of the funeral itself.

 

[Expensive Date]

Was it "Sharkey Images" taking the pictures?