Dosen't look good for my Dad

[Expensive Date]

My Dad had surgery back in November he had part of his intestine removed,cancer.He now has a blockage which could be caused by swelling from the radiation or it came back.He is 87 so time is not on his side I talked to him tonight and while he sounded good I think he knows he might not recover from this.
I am going down to see him within the next week or two he lives in Jupiter Fla and I am not sure if I should take my kids.I know that sounds strange but he has been down in Fla. for 20 years and my kids 16, 12, 12, 12only got to see him about once a year.Last year we went down there for a week and I chartered a 50ft Viking and went sport fishing with my Dad and my kids my Dad had never done anything like this before we had a great time.My kids have never had anyone close to them die don't know if I want them to remember him the way they saw him last (on the boat)or not

 

[Buoy]

Very sorry to hear.
I hope he is well, and recovers.

About the kids. I think because they were not that close, you may want to leave them behind. Or, take them with you just to see grandpa for maybe 30 mins, and then allow you to spend some time with him, as much time as you and him need.
I don't mean to be grim.
My wife and I are soon facing this same reality with her Father (he'll be 85 this year).
I hope all is well, and he goes on for many more years.

 

[Bobcat]

thoughts going out to you tim

 

[Ratickle]

Very sorry to hear that Tim.

Opinion only, if your Dad wants to see them and talk to them , they're old enough to understand that's what's best for your father now is what needs to be done.

But listen to yourself on this one, youe inner opinion is probably the correct one.

Take care..

Paul

 

[fund razor]

Sorry about you Dad, Tim.

Good luck with the trip, and with making your decision.

 

[cosmic12]

Sorry to hear this Tim, That is a tough one, from my own experience I wish I hadn't gone to see a couple of friends because of the memory it left and I will Not go to an open casket funeral for that reason. I want to remember people as they were not what I was subjected to in the end. If it were me I'd leave them home. Good luck man my heart goe's out to ya.

 

[Chris]

My thoughts are with you.

 

[BBB725]

I hope it all works out for your dad

 

[open72]

Tim ,go now , or as fast as you can...don't wait....family is always first ,see that your wife and kids are set , contact your customers and go ...it's a tough road to go down , when my mom was sick , nothing was more important...

 

[ChiefApache]

Thoughts and prayers for your dad and your family.

As far as the kids go, I personally think they're old enough to handle it. Death happens and it's a reality we all have to face at some point. It's not always about how close one was to a person. He is their grandfather. This may be the time to expose your children to someone dying and death. They will have questions no doubt. They are certainly old enough to understand.

Sorry that you're going through this right now.

 

[yesrej]

sorry to hear about your dad. our thoughts are with you.
i also agree with ask your father if he wants to see them and go from there. they are old enough to understand.
just my 2 cents.
i hope the best for you.

 

[DollaBill]

Sorry to hear Tim. Life will be here when you get back. Thoughts are with you buddy

 

[Madpoodle]

I'm with the ask your Dad group. Yes, it may be tough, but if thats his wish, let him have it.

Thoughts and prayers with you and yours man, been there, done that.

 

[Rush]

Tim ,go now , or as fast as you can...don't wait....family is always first ,see that your wife and kids are set , contact your customers and go ...it's a tough road to go down , when my mom was sick , nothing was more important...

Exactly.

 

[Expensive Date]

Thanks for all the replys,My brother who lives in Georgia will be there Tuesday with his wife who is an ICU nurse so I will have a better idea of what is going on in a few days.Will be going next weekend unless something changes.

 

[dykstra]

Thoughts are with you.

 

[03darkshadow]

my thoughts are with you and your father. i hope he recovers.

 

[inbetween]

You have our thoughts and prayers for your dad,you, and your family.

 

[old377guy]

hope that you and your family get to spend some more time with him - jeff

 

[open72]

Thanks for all the replys,My brother who lives in Georgia will be there Tuesday with his wife who is an ICU nurse so I will have a better idea of what is going on in a few days.Will be going next weekend unless something changes.

I don't want to come off in the wrong way ,

go , if your father is that sick ,go ,spend those days with him , when my mom was sick , i stayed until it was time for her to head up to the cloud lounge . my mom was not just my mom ,but the best friend i could ever have , and i did not realize that until she was gone , i wished i would have started to stay everyday with her a few days earlier....

when things started to get real bad for her , it was rapid...please , i ask of you to go ....you won't want to have on your mind , saying to yourself , "i wish i woulda" it's a tough thing...don't make it any tougher on you...

peace